Black Girls Don’t Swim?

Black Girls Don't Swim?

I never learned how to swim. It wasn't high on my parent's list of priorities, and when I became an adult, it wasn't that high on mine, either.  There was a point in my life where I owned about 20 different bikinis. I would go to the pool or the beach, but sit my skinny little tail on a chair somewhere, dry as a bone the entire time. I look back now and shake my head. Now that I'm grown and have my own daughter, I have a completely different view on why learning to swim is so necessary. Not only is it a safety issue (a HUGE safety issue), it's great for self-esteem and fun. Also, when my child does it, it's an effective way to kill the stereotype that Black girls don't swim. I know I didn't do much personally to prove folks wrong about that stereotype, but I'm probably the only one of my close friends who can't swim.  … [Continue]

How Not To Freak Out About Kindergarten

Tips for Kindergarten2

It seems so cliché to be anxious about Ayva starting kindergarten in a few weeks, but you know what? The anxiety and nervousness that I'm feeling about her starting grade school is real, and yeah, I'm freaking out a little bit. When Ayva started going to daycare at 3 months old, I was there with her in the same building. The women in her classroom would call me when she was hungry and I'd go down and nurse her. I never packed bottles because, what for? I was always there. When we moved to California, she was in preschool for 3 hours a day and I work from home, so we still spent the majority of our time together. Even though we drive each other crazy sometimes, we're besties! We like all the same things, bagels for lunch, spontaneous runs to Michael's for craft supplies during the middle of the week when it's not crowded, and walks around the neighborhood, collecting flowers and other little treasures.  … [Continue]

Mommy Was There

Ayva Dance Show

Last week was crazy. I spent most of my days with a knot in my stomach and my head throbbing with pain because of the stress of feeling like I needed to be two places at once. A huge conference for work that I was presenting at for the first time was happening 45 minutes away from my home, but Ayva … [Continue]

What To Do When: Your Husband Is Fine

What To Do When Your Husband Is Fine

My husband and I met at a conference in 2010. I was in the lobby on my computer with an attitude and looking a hot mess when he walked up to me and asked me to keep an eye on his bag. I should have said no. I mean, seriously, this guy was a stranger and wasn't there a movie one time where a girl was … [Continue]

Back On The Menu Challenge At Build Pizzeria

Pizza at Build In Berkeley

Thanks, BEANO® +DAIRY DEFENSE™, for sponsoring this post and helping me put dairy back on the menu! Two lactose intolerant people walk into a pizza shop... Sounds like the beginning of a really bad date night, right? It didn't turn out that way for Terrence and me, on a visit to Build Pizzeria … [Continue]

Stay UNDER Grocery Budget? Yes! #GroceryChallenge

Grocery Budget Tutor

I've shared a lot about some of the financial struggles that I had as a former single mother. Even though my family is doing much better now, I'm still dealing with some of the challenges of being working poor for so many years. Thanks to my brilliant husband, I'm working on paying off debt, … [Continue]

Overcoming Perfection (Oh, and I wrote a book.)

Overcoming Perfection - Mama Knows It All

I remember the exact moment I became a perfectionist. I was in college, working part-time as an administrative assistant at a large pharmaceutical company. It was in the late 90's when the economy was booming, and everyone with "manager" in their title had a secretary whether they needed it or not. … [Continue]

Chilling And A Sweet’N Low Lemon Drop

sweet n low into the shaker

Our Sweet'N Low Lemon Drop was shaken up as part of a sponsored post for Socialstars #SweetNLowStars My husband and I are the king and queen of the  after work wind down. Every night, at 7 PM PST, we put our child to bed, and the chilling commences. Some evenings we fire up the DVR and catch up … [Continue]

How To Be A Better Lover In 20 Minutes Or Less

How To Be A Better Lover In 20 Minutes Or Less

As a newlywed, I'm always open to advice from women who have been married longer than me. Making sure my husband is happy is a priority, and I know that my happiness is important to him as well. The two of us were absolutely made for each other, and being with him is (without telling too much of our … [Continue]

Still Got It: 5 Creative Ways To Start A Workout Routine

Poise and Yoga #PoiseWithSam

I'm getting active with Poise Microliner as part of a sponsored post for Socialstars. #PoiseWithSAM I need to work out. There. I've said it. It's not because I don't like the way that I look ('cause Mama looks good!), it's really about the way that I feel. I've been sluggish and lethargic lately, … [Continue]