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Thank God for Girlfriends

Mama Knows It All

I’ve always been a girl’s girl. I don’t understand when women say they “don’t hang with females.” They are usually so proud of themselves, too, proclaiming it loud and proud, typically in the earshot of a group of men. I get it. Women are emotional. We often express our feelings more than men do. But to “not hang with females” over that? That just doesn’t make sense to me. Maybe it’s because I’ve been blessed to have amazing friendships with remarkable women who have my back. Oh, there’s been some drama with some of these women. There have been some arguments, some hurt feelings, but you know what? The confidence that I have in knowing that no matter what, my girls will be there for me, totally trumps all of that.

This is not to discredit the men out there who are great friends, but I can’t imagine a man replacing the type of interaction and sisterfriend love that I get from the women in my life. I’ve cried with my girls over everything from lost loves to bad haircuts. We’ve sang at the top of our lungs to love songs for hours at a time. And my girls have prayed for me, y’all. I’m talking old school, backwoods country church deep in the country, big hat, Sunday best, take me to the river type prayers. Let me tell you, there is POWER in having a group of women who make sure you’re always covered.

As I get older, I’m learning to appreciate the women in my life more. Some of my friendships are older than others, but they’re all equally as valuable to me. Over the last few years, I’ve had lessons in cultivating and nurturing relationships that last, and a lot of it comes from modeling the behavior that’s exhibited to me. Isn’t that a great blessing? This type of blessing isn’t unique to me, though. Most of the women I know have girlfriends that support them, too. If the women around you aren’t building and lifting you up, then you need to find another group of women to be around. But don’t give up on them. Please, don’t give up on us.

Do you have a group of friends that support you? Tell me about them!

Brandi Jeter

Sunday 26th of May 2013

We do need a talk on it, @Sharelle! I feel like we are thought to question and doubt each other so much that it's kind of a part of our makeup now. We need to get back to the "Salt & Pepa"/ "Queen Latifah" days of SistaLove!

Jessica @FoundtheMarbles

Wednesday 22nd of May 2013

I did not appreciate the value of girlfriends until I became an adult. Growing up I was more "just one of the guys" but now I couldn't live without my supportive group of girlfriends. They mean everything to me.

BrandiJeter

Saturday 25th of May 2013

I'd be lost without my girls, that's for sure!

Janeane Davis

Monday 20th of May 2013

I really liked this post celebrating women, our lives and our friendships. I have friends in the real world and those I have developed online. Both groups are precious to me and I don't want to imagine life without them. My husband is my best friend, but my friendships with women are a different thing altogether. I think life will be better for all of us when we learn that we should celebrate and cultivate our friendships with women.

BrandiJeter

Wednesday 22nd of May 2013

That's it. Terrence is my best friend, and he loves listening to me talk (gossip/talk/same thing!), because he loves me. He can never give the reaction that my girlfriends give. I'm grateful for my girls!