Valentine’s Day is just a few days away, and if you’re single, you know what that means…the exes are going to come out of the woodwork and start sniffing around. You know what they’re smelling for? Desperation. That’s right. They want to test the waters and see if you’re vulnerable enough to fall back into old (probably bad, hence the ex) habits for a box of chocolates and some grocery store flowers. Don’t do it.
Don’t. Do. It.
Seriously, I think you can totally be friends with your ex, but if you’re lonely, or feeling even the least bit desperate, it won’t work. I’m friends with a couple of my ex-boyfriends, and although we don’t talk every day or anything, we do connect a few times a year. It’s just nice to catch up every once in awhile. I think the reason our friendships work is because we absolutely respect each other, and we aren’t trying to relive the past. Every ex isn’t the same. That’s why I have a couple that I have blocked from contacting me at all. They didn’t seem to understand boundaries, so they had to go.
What about y’all? Could you be friends with an ex? How would you feel if your partner was friends with one of their exes? Check out the latest episode of The Conversation Thread on iVillage with Kelly, Beth, Sharon, Amanda and me, and let me know what you think!