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He’s Out There, Single Moms

ayva and terrence

It hasn’t even been 2 years since Terrence and I have been married, and already it feels like we’ve been together my whole life. I can’t imagine living life without him. Not only is he my best friend and the world’s best husband, he’s also an excellent dad. You know, I never planned on being a single mom. Not once in any of my fantasies of what life for me would be like as an adult was that an option. Once I became one, though, I didn’t think that I would ever not be a single mom. To find myself parenting Ayva with the most perfect partner ever is probably the biggest blessing in my life.

It’s funny, whenever I think back to my years as a single mom, so many of those memories are already fading away. The hardest moments were the first to go. I still recall those tough times, but I don’t feel them anymore. That’s a testament to Terrence and the support that he gives me.

Sometimes I worry that I’m not holding up my end of the bargain. I mean, really, Terrence is a way better parent than I am. During the school year, he helped Ayva complete her homework every Sunday night. He brings her flowers when she does something good. He packs her lunch every day. This summer, he’s taken her to all of her swim lessons. When I need a break, he’s the one that takes her to the playground and out to frozen yogurt. He even takes her to Ikea.

During the day.

On the weekend.

That’s some Super Dad stuff right there!

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When I chose to end things with my ex months before Ayva was born, I was content to raise my little girl alone. I knew it would be hard, but it was important to me that she have stability and a real representation of love to look up to. Terrence is both of those things.

I’m not sharing all of this just to brag on my man. I’m sharing this to encourage the single mothers who are patiently waiting for the right man to come into her family’s life. Before I met Terrence, I wasn’t sure that I would ever get married. Didn’t care, really. My priority was taking care of Ayva.

I was lonely, though.

I wanted companionship and friendship and romance.

I prayed for a partner, and I got a husband.

Be patient, Mamas. Continue to uphold your strict standards. You’re not less desirable because you are a mom. Stay open and hopeful, and let it be known that you believe in love. He’s out there, and you will find each other. Take my word for it.

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Read our falling in love story!

Single Mom Finds Love




Tuesday 18th of August 2015

And I'm in tears. I needed to read that there can be a wonderful partner on the horizon. Thank you for this.

And congratulations, love deserves to be celebrated!


Tuesday 11th of August 2015

I can't love this most any more. This is SUCH an important message for women everywhere. And I am so so so happy for you. xo


Tuesday 11th of August 2015

ahem, this POST.

Courtney Mora-Ludwig

Saturday 8th of August 2015

I was a single mom for 12 years. I thought I found a good guy. I am now 5 years divorced with 5.5 yr old twins. My oldest is grown and had been married 2 years. I occasionally dream of a Prince, a happy ending and a white picket fence - but the moments are quick and end in laughter. Lately I have been satisfied with Mr. Right Now. Maybe it will be one of those things that happen when you least expect it, and have given up any hope.

I am so glad you found a good man, husband and father to be in your life. It looks like you have hit the jackpot!

Sarah Hughes

Friday 7th of August 2015

This is awesome! I love what an amazing dad Terrance is! It's so obvious in any photos how he loves Ayva!!