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How To Be A Better Mom in 20 Minutes or Less

Tips for being a better mom

This year has been incredibly hectic for me, both personally and professionally. First I got a new job, then I got engaged, and after that I got married. Of course, with all of that came lots of work, travel, wedding planning, and everything else that comes along with impending nuptials and a career advancement. The one constant in all of that was my Ayva. My little girl is seriously amazing! She is so flexible and open to new experiences, and even when I feel like I’m not being the best mom, she still thinks I’m the greatest. 

It’s because of Ayva’s confidence in my mothering abilities that I made a commitment to being a better Mom. I beat myself up pretty bad, y’all, over my parenting deficiencies. I wanted to be that mom that baked delicious treats, and always engaged my little one with crafts. The truth is, I’m always so exhausted, and the thought of being SuperMom seemed daunting. Ayva deserves a SuperMom, though, so I’ve been making a few adjustments that are helping me to be able to give her more attention, and create more meaningful interactions with her. Really, with just a few simple changes and intentional additions to our routine, I’m becoming a better Mom every day in 20 minutes or less.

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Make being a mom a priority.

So, what did I do? The main thing was to make being a mom a priority. It’s true, I have my shows that I like to veg out to. All of “The Real Housewives”, and their spinoffs, as well as anything reality based that I can indulge my voyeur tendencies on. Well, some of those had to go. I needed more rest in order to have more energy during the day when Ayva was awake and needed me. I also started saying no to non-essential travel that would take me away from her, and declining opportunities that would decrease the time we could spend together.

Be realistic about the time that being a better mom takes.

The greatest lesson I learned, though, was to to be realistic about the time that being a better mom actually took. For example, a few months ago, Ayva went to a friend’s house for a playdate. While she was there, the mom made muffins. Of course, the next day Ayva came home and asked for muffins. My first reaction was, “I don’t know if we have time, Ayva.” Then I pulled up a muffin recipe and realized that it’d take me about 5 minutes to mix everything up (8 if Ayva was helping), and 12 minutes to bake. I had 17 minutes. So, I made the muffins. And Ayva and I have been baking at least once a week every since.


Learn how to listen better. If influence is something you think you may need in your arsenal once children are beyond the phase of simply being told what to do, consider learning how to really listen. Patricia from Boomer Wizdom

Get up earlier.

Get up half hour earlier than the kids to get yourself together & have alone time so you can be refreshed & mentally available for the kids.– Pamela from Still Dating My Spouse

Read together.

Reading together is awesome. Even when you have a teen.Rachee from Say It Rah-Shay

I read him books, sometimes the same book 4 or 5 times. I admit it drives me insane but I’ve found my sanity in saying “OK! Your turn! Read to mommy” and actually NOT getting on my phone during his imaginary story telling. – Brittany from Project Student and Mom

Look at your child.

Look into your child’s eyes when you talk to them. Be focused on them and them alone when you are engaging with them. This lets them know you value them and are not distracted by life not to look them in the eye when you are talking. – Sarah from How I Pinch A Penny 

Take time for yourself.

It’s ok to take time out for yourself everyday, even if it’s hiding in the bathroom with a book or your smartphone. It keeps us sane. – Thien-Kim from I’m Not The Nanny

Be in the moment.

Afterschool, be in the moment to review their school papers with them. Congratulate them for good papers, help them mentally prepare for the homework they have to do.Jennifer from Jersey Family Fun


Just put away the screens. Telephone, computers…put them away. Jeanne from Mom Hearts Pinot

Take a walk.

Talk a walk with them one-on-one, ask genuine questions and use those active listening skills. – Michelle from Divas With A Purpose

Play a game together.

A great game of Candyland always makes my son happy. He knows he goes first, because he’s the youngest! Yolanda from Mama Knows It All Facebook page

Schedule time for your child.

When working from home with a little one take a 20 minute break to read a story, color a picture or work on puzzle. I think of it as a person working outside of the home would, when you have a scheduled break you aren’t doing any work. same goes for your scheduled break with the kid. No work, no phone calls, no quick emails. You are off the clock! Natalie from Mama Knows It All Facebook page

I know a lot of Moms are struggling with balancing work and life and being a better mom. What solutions have worked for you and your family?

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Monday 12th of September 2016

Probably not a reaction you'ld expect, but tears are running down the cheeks. Going through a bit of a valley at moment. I'm a SAHM and that's quite alien in this country. Finding it hard to meet up to the expectiations of husband, family and society. But I find, trying to be the best (house)mummy you can be, and making my fulltime job out of it, is a great thing and a choice that should be respected. And that doesn't mean allways having everything under control. I'm rambling on, I know, but reading this post brought it all up. Just makes me so happy to read such simple but true things. Today's world declares our kids needs loads of material stuff to be healthy happy. But is't so wrong. All they ever long for is a mummy (or parents in general) like the one you describe above here. Some things you wrote were things that made me say: hey, that's so true, I do that too. And there were some things that made me blush and say: hey, that's so true I NEED to do the getting up earlier tip. That's defenite one you wrote for me, made to be read today, all they way here in Belgium. My big stumble block. Thank you for sharing. I'll be reading more of your stuff following days! God bless!


Monday 16th of December 2013

This was suuuuuuch a good post!...and as emo as I am, it made me cry. Thinking to myself about my mom and cooking with her and how much it still means to me. The traditions that you all build together will be there forever.


Tuesday 17th of December 2013

Thank you so much, @MavenMantrap:disqus ! You know how much your relationship with your mother inspires me. I told her at your book signing that my hope was that I could be as supportive of Ayva as she is to you! I'm sure it makes you feel confident enough to take risks knowing that your Mama has your back!