I wasn’t cool.
My parents were having none of that. At the time, I totally resented the way that they were blocking my fun. Now, looking back, I get it. I wasn’t mature enough to handle some of the situations that present themselves when teenagers are drinking and flirting and alone together. Sure, I knew how I should handle those situations. I just don’t know that I would have handled them. Peer pressure is crazy, and I wasn’t even the follower type!
So, will I let Ayva go to overnight parties with boys? I want to say definitively “no”, but I’m not really sure. One thing I do know for sure is that I’m going to teach Ayva that she is special, and that sex is special, and that it is even more special and meaningful when you are in a committed, loving relationship. I’m going to build her confidence so that she can be strong enough to be okay with not doing what the “cool” kids are doing.
And if all else fails, I’ll keep her so busy with tumbling, piano, cheerleading, basketball, Science Club, field hockey and the school play that she’ll be so tired to even want to go to parties.
Just kidding. Kind of.
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