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Bringing Depression Out Of The Dark #DayOfLight

#DayOfLight Bringing Depression Out Of The Dark

A few months ago, I shared my struggle with depression in a blog post. It was the first time that I’d really opened up about the intense sadness that would overtake me , and the response to the post was incredible. I received inbox messages, texts, telephone calls, and emails from all types of folks who shared their own struggles with depression. My feelings of guilt (that my family and friends had to deal with me during particularly tough times), and shame (of not being strong enough to just “get over it”) often drove me to retreat within myself.

The isolation of depression can lead to dark thoughts, pain, and suffering. For some people who are struggling with depression, those things get to be too much. In the last three months, I know of 3 people for whom that was the case. The suffering was too intense, and they took their own lives. It is devastating, and for many people, it’s confusing. “But, she seemed so happy!”, “He was so loved!”, “He had everything going for him!”. Depression can be complicated for those suffering from it, as well as for those who have loved ones dealing with it. That’s why I believe depression needs to come out of the dark.


What is #DayOfLight?

After learning about the suicide of a young man from my hometown (my sister’s senior prom date), I was inspired to declare February 5th the #DayOfLight. My blogging sisters at Pushing Lovely (and you?) and I are joining together to shine a light on depression. We will be sharing personal stories, as well as resources and accurate information about the mental illness.  With the help of professionals like Lori L., a Master of Social Work based in Philadelphia, and representatives from national organizations, we will share information on things like how to identify depression, therapy options, and national resources.

How Can You Participate?

  • Write a blog post sharing your personal experience of depression and/or share resources to help others. Add the #DayOfLight hashtag in your post title.
  • Watch the #DayOfLight Google Hangout on Wednesday, February 5th at 11 AM EST. Tweet and ask questions. (
  • Participate in the #DayOfLight twitter chat on Wednesday, February 5th at 9 PM EST (follow @PushingLovely, @NotoriousSpinks, and @BrandiJeter for more information)
  • Turn your social media avatars black and white on Wednesday, February 5th so we can visually represent all of those affected by depression.
  • Share inspiring tweets, posts, and photos  on social media to encourage those who are suffering with depression to let them know that they are not alone. Use the hashtag #DayOfLight. (On 2/4, I’ll share a link to a file with information that you can pull from if you’re interested)

Depression is a complex mental illness, and it manifests differently in different folks. #DayOfLight isn’t about trying to simplify depression. I’m hoping that by bringing stories of depression into the light, we can help to erase some of the stigma surrounding it. If you need more information about #DayOfLight, please email me at [email protected]

Note: In no way am I doing this alone. This is the first of many posts of gratitude from me this week:  Many thanks to the women of Pushing Lovely for jumping on board to bring depression out of the dark. Your actions and support mean everything to me! So much love to Lori for developing a wonderfully informative program for the Google Hangout, and a special shout out to Pam, Yolonda, Arelis, Janeane, and Natasha for your selfless actions and support as we prepare for #DayOfLight. 

Alexandra Elizabeth

Wednesday 5th of February 2014

"but she seems happy" I've gotten that so much! I told a friend over the weekend I was writing a post in support of this movement she looked at me, depressed? But I seem to have it all together, I work, I take care of my daughter. I'm strong. Depression doesn't make me weak, but it does mean I need extra support. Thanks for sharing your story.

The Maven

Monday 3rd of February 2014

You are so brave, so strong, for doing this. I am proud of you, and proud to call you my friend.

Still DatingMySpouse

Monday 3rd of February 2014

Depression cripples man of us and I am so glad that we are bringing this illness to light. No one should feel ashamed, alone, or trapped. Thank you for letting us tell our story along with your story!

Natasha Nicholes

Monday 3rd of February 2014

As I totally start fretting about a session with a therapist later this morning, I look and read this post and know that I'm doing what's best for me and my family. I hate feeling trapped, and I hate even more that I didn't depend on the man who vowed to love and cherish me through good and bad for so long. I'm happy that this is coming about because depression takes such a bad turn in EVERYTHING, and I would TOTALLY love for people to know that they are not alone!

Notorious Spinks

Sunday 2nd of February 2014

You know we got you, because you're the greatest! Can't wait to shine the light on depression and inspire others to expose it for what it is! Love you girl!