It hasn’t even been 2 years since Terrence and I have been married, and already it feels like we’ve been together my whole life. I can’t imagine living life without him. Not only is he my best friend and the world’s best husband, he’s also an excellent dad. You know, I never planned on being a single mom. Not once in any of my fantasies of what life for me would be like as an adult was that an option. Once I became one, though, I didn’t think that I would ever not be a single mom. To find myself parenting Ayva with the most perfect partner ever is probably the biggest blessing in my life.
It’s funny, whenever I think back to my years as a single mom, so many of those memories are already fading away. The hardest moments were the first to go. I still recall those tough times, but I don’t feel them anymore. That’s a testament to Terrence and the support that he gives me.
Sometimes I worry that I’m not holding up my end of the bargain. I mean, really, Terrence is a way better parent than I am. During the school year, he helped Ayva complete her homework every Sunday night. He brings her flowers when she does something good. He packs her lunch every day. This summer, he’s taken her to all of her swim lessons. When I need a break, he’s the one that takes her to the playground and out to frozen yogurt. He even takes her to Ikea.
During the day.
On the weekend.
That’s some Super Dad stuff right there!
When I chose to end things with my ex months before Ayva was born, I was content to raise my little girl alone. I knew it would be hard, but it was important to me that she have stability and a real representation of love to look up to. Terrence is both of those things.
I’m not sharing all of this just to brag on my man. I’m sharing this to encourage the single mothers who are patiently waiting for the right man to come into her family’s life. Before I met Terrence, I wasn’t sure that I would ever get married. Didn’t care, really. My priority was taking care of Ayva.
I was lonely, though.
I wanted companionship and friendship and romance.
I prayed for a partner, and I got a husband.
Be patient, Mamas. Continue to uphold your strict standards. You’re not less desirable because you are a mom. Stay open and hopeful, and let it be known that you believe in love. He’s out there, and you will find each other. Take my word for it.
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