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All That Matters

All That Matters

I’ve taken a lot of crap in my life. Disrespect. Discrimination. There have been times when I’ve continued in relationships where I had to minimize myself, or jobs where I felt that I was stuck even though I was being mistreated. I’ve second guessed and short changed myself. Lowered my expectations. Been in situations where I was […]

Mommy Was There

Ayva Dance Show

Last week was crazy. I spent most of my days with a knot in my stomach and my head throbbing with pain because of the stress of feeling like I needed to be two places at once. A huge conference for work that I was presenting at for the first time was happening 45 minutes […]

Extraordinary Ayva

Extraordinary Ayva

Not long ago, after putting Ayva to bed, Terrence said to me, “You know what I love the most about Ayva? She can have a bad day, get in trouble and have to get a time out, but when she wakes up the next morning, it’s like it never happened.” It’s true. My Ayva is […]

You Don’t Need Creativity. You’ve Got Poise.

Poise Micro Travel Bag

I’m totally not reinventing the wheel when it comes to LBL thanks to Poise Microliners as part of a sponsored post for Socialstars. #PoiseWithSAM Have you ever heard the saying, “Necessity is the mother of invention”? It’s one of my favorites, because it’s so true. Basically, it means that folks will get mighty creative when […]

TMI, LBL and Mama’s Still Got It

TMI, LBL and Mama's Still Got It, #SAMInMyPants

I wrote about my experience with Poise Microliner as part of a sponsored post for Socialstars. #SAMInYourPants When I was pregnant, I was fortunate to work with a group of women for whom verbal filters did not exist. As soon as they found out I was expecting, they were there to give the the honest […]

Awestruck And Anticipation #NakedMoms

Awestruck and Anticipation #NakedMoms

Five years ago today, I was sitting in my small, 4 room apartment in Philadelphia with a newborn Ayva. Just 7 days old, we had only gotten out of the hospital 2 days earlier. The first night, my our home was filled with people. My sister, Ayva’s godmother, and godfather all stayed the night to […]

Plug In, Mama: Set Some Boundaries

Plug In Mama - Set Some Boundaries

There was a time not too long ago when I was at my employers beck and call. I was working as a contractor, and would answer the phone anytime day or night, weekdays or weekend. Whenever I received a a work related email, I would drop what I was doing to answer, and I can’t […]

Plug In, Mama: Analyzing Motherhood

Plug In Mama: Day 1 - Analyzing Motherhood

The entire time I was pregnant with Ayva, in addition to working full-time and teaching part-time, I also took part in a 9 month fellowship at the University of Pennsylvania. The fellowship was for Educators and Administrators in Out of School Time programs, and focused on the practice of using practitioner inquiry to better our […]

Plug In, Mama: 21 Days To More Engaged Parenting

Plug In, Mama: 21 Days To More Engaged Parenting

Can you remember the first time you saw your child? I can. I remember every single detail from the day Ayva was born. There are some parts of those memories that are more fuzzy than others, but still, I’ll never forget. More than anything, I remember how my every single thought was about her. I couldn’t keep […]

Reinventing The Feel #NakedMoms

Reinventing The Feel #NakedMoms

I can remember the exact moment I changed from being Brandi to Brandi, Ayva’s Mom. It was on the day of my ultrasound to determine my unborn child’s gender. When I heard the words, “It’s a girl!”, my life was forever changed. My heart exploded, the agape love switch turned on in my brain, and […]