10 Things To Say To Your Child Every Day

10 Things To Say To Your Child Every Single Day

Not a day goes by when I don't go to bed thinking of fifty ways that I could have been a better mom to Ayva. I mean, I know I'm a great mom. I love Ayva more than anything, and I work hard to make her happy, but there's always room for improvement. I could always be more attentive, or more patient. Then, there's nights like tonight, when I was on my way to the market to get groceries for dinner...and ended up going through the drive through at a fast food restaurant. How To Be A Better Mom In … [Read more...]

Growing Up Mama #NakedMoms

Mama Knows It All

At the beginning of my motherhood journey, I was a tad bit tentative. I was already dealing with some "about to be 30 and single" growing pains before I had Ayva. After she was born, there was a period of self-doubt, guilt and shame, that had it gone without being handled, could have greatly affected the type of mother that I would become. My biggest issue? Fear of being a stereotype.  I wanted Ayva to have the same opportunities and experiences as a child from a two-parent family, and I was … [Read more...]

We’re Not Going To #BanBossy

#BanBossy

There's a new girl power initiative spreading across the internet that's backed by some of the world's biggest bosses. Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook and author of Lean In has spearheaded the #BanBossy movement to stop girls from being branded as bossy, and to encourage them to become leaders. Now y'all know I'm all about uplifting women and girls, but I'm not convinced that bossy needs to be banned. For me, it's not a matter of the mission of the campaign. I think it's great. Absolutely, … [Read more...]

Black Girls Are Magic #BlackGirlMagic

Black Girls Are Magic

Earlier this week, Ayva told me she wished she had "gold hair like Ashley's". Now, being the Soul Sister Mama that I am, I let her know that her hair is beautiful, just like her friend's, with the added benefit of being able to be braided, twisted, curled, straightened, or left alone to be gorgeous all on its own. Raising a little Black girl, I knew these types of things would come up. Heck, raising a little girl of any color, I'm sure these things come up. Insecurities, wanting to be like … [Read more...]

5 Ways For Moms To Slow Down And Enjoy Motherhood

Have Patience: 5 Ways For Moms To Slow Down And Enjoy Motherhood

In just a few months, Ayva is going to be finishing up preschool and starting kindergarten. Every time I think about that, my heart starts pounding, I start sweating, and it feels like I'm going to faint. What happened to my baby? She's already started to make friends who take top billing over me during playdates. What if she goes off to elementary school and forgets all about her poor Mama? Of course, I'm exaggerating (kind of), but I'm sure with Ayva going to school all day, things are going … [Read more...]

10 Things To Say To Your Husband Every Day

Words of Affirmation for Your Husband - Mama Knows It All

There's a new trend among married folks that I agree with completely. Instead of the "ol' ball and chain" stereotype that used to define matrimony, men and women are treating marriage like a gift (because it is), and their spouses like a prize (because they are). Nowadays, wives aren't belittling their husbands for laughs. I mean, some may try, but if they're lucky, a sistergirl pulls them to the side real quick and sets them real straight. Sitcoms showing the long-suffering wife tolerating … [Read more...]

Giving Up Supposed To Be #NakedMoms

Mama Knows It All

It wasn't the way I'd pictured my 30th birthday at all. I had thought that maybe I'd get my girls together and take a trip to Vegas. Tossed around the idea of a personal retreat. Think, massages and room service at an upscale resort somewhere sunny. What I didn't think, however, was that I'd be laying on the cold floor of my bathroom, my head leaning against the toilet, trying to contain the nausea. Alone. This was not the way it was supposed to happen. … [Read more...]

What Are Your Soul Goals?

What are your 2014 Soul Goals?

I just finished making my vision board for 2014. I know, I know. It's so cliché and overdone, right? All of these lists and vision boards and one word posts. You get it. New year, new me and all of that. It's totally not necessary for me to write yet another blog post about how hard this year is going to rock. And yet, here I am. Another blogger writing another blog post about how hard this year is going to rock.  You know why I'm writing it? I'm not doing it for pageviews or headpats (although … [Read more...]

Not In This Alone

ayvaterrence

Today was hard. Ayva has been having some stomach problems, so she hasn't been quite herself, and between work and taking care of her...I'm spent. A few weeks ago, I vowed to relax more. I made balance a priority so that my family could stop getting the short end of the stick when it came to me. It's been working. I'm much more patient, and a lot less exhausted. Today, however? Honey...it was rough. Back in the day, when I was a true single mom, tough days often turned into tough weeks … [Read more...]

Are You Clearly In Need?

Matthew 7:7

I had an encounter with a woman last week that I can't get off of my mind. I was at the gas station when she walked by me, pushing a shopping cart. The woman had a small boy with her, and her cart was filled with various items that were clearly their personal things. As I waited for my gas to finish pumping, I watched her walk by thinking that maybe I should say something to her. Because I am human, though, and I don't always do the right thing, I didn't call out to her. Instead, I thought about … [Read more...]