Encouraging Positive Behavior In Kids

Encourage Positive Behavior In Kids

  When Ayva was a toddler, I discovered Jane Nelsen, Ed. D and her Positive Discipline pedagogy. At the time, Ayva was still doing things like biting and throwing tantrums, and I needed some sort of support to manage that behavior without losing my mind. Learning about positive discipline was a parenting game changer for […]

Raising A Thin Girl With Healthy Self Esteem

raising a thin girl

I’ve always been thin. Small breasts. Little waist. Booty that was slim to none. It’s only been in the last few years that I’ve started to fill out. Growing up a tall, skinny Black girl wasn’t great for my self-esteem at all. Middle school pretty much sucked. High school was a little bit better. By […]

She Was Disobedient, But I’m Still Proud

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There’s a reason we don’t keep a lot of treats in our house. Terrence, Ayva and I LOVE candy. Terrence isn’t that big on chocolate, but he loves those sour gummy worms that are covered in sugar. I’m not a fan of those, but I’ll eat just about everything else, and so will Ayva. It’s […]

In Defense Of The Girly Girl

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My 5-year-old is a tutu wearing, princess loving, twirling, dancing, glittery girl. She loves getting her nails polished, anything with sequins on it, and never met a piece of jewelry she didn’t like. When she played soccer in the fall, she did pirouettes and leaps down the field, and was more interested in talking to […]

Mom Enough, And Stories Of Naked Mothering

Mom Enough

The last few months have been really crazy in our house. From Ayva starting kindergarten to leaving my job, losing my stepmother, finances being tight due to starting a business (as well as unexpected expenses), and everything in between, I haven’t been feeling like “The Best Mom” that I vowed to be this year. Fortunately, […]

Being An Actual Mom

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I remember the first night it happened. It was 7:00 PM and I had just finished getting Ayva ready for bed. She had her story, I’d supervised her brushing her teeth, and she was snug and tucked in the bed. It wasn’t until I leaned in to kiss her that she said, “What? No dinner […]

The Unintentional Horror Of The Elf On The Shelf

Elf On The Shelf

Our family has quite a few holiday traditions.  We love to watch “Elf” on Thanksgiving day. Then, Terrence and his mom go out shopping early in the morning on Black Friday, and I go out later that evening after the crowds have died down. There’s hot cocoa just about every day for nearly  a month, […]

{Saturday Sights} Daddy and Daughter Days


It’s official. The Rileys are a forever family. Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6

How We Got To Forever

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I made a conscious decision to be a single mother. Well, I didn’t actually plan it, but once I became pregnant and was able to get a glimpse into what parenting in the future would be with him, I made the choice that would be best for my child. There are all sorts of reports […]

Fueling Ayva’s Brighter Future

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This post was sponsored by ‘Got Milk?’ through their partnership with POPSUGAR. While I was compensated by POPSUGAR to write a post about ‘Got Milk?’, all opinions are my own. There’s something to be said for unplugging and spending quality time with the people that you love. When I was growing up, although my mom […]