Thank you to Vanity Fair for partnering with me on this post!
Insecurity has caused me to miss out on a lot of opportunities in life. For years I walked around completely uncomfortable in my own skin. My clothes were never quite right, I couldn’t ever get my hair the way I wanted it, and I was always way too skinny. I learned how to fake confidence enough to get by, but that’s about it. As it turns out, when you aren’t being your authentic self, it’s really difficult to get ahead. Instead of working to build real and lasting relationships, and connecting with folks beyond a surface level, I was busy trying to hide the person I was because I didn’t like me. I couldn’t see and appreciate the woman that I was growing into.
All of that changed when I got pregnant and had Ayva. Something about becoming a mother really resonated with me. Something about becoming a single mother really changed me. Suddenly, I had a foundation of purpose, and was able to understand the important work that my body was able to do. Not only was I amazed at the strength of my body to be able to carry and nourish an entire human being, but I was also blown away by my mental durability and will. Failure was not an option.
Since then, not only have I not failed, but I’ve been blessed to win and help other women achieve their goals as well. Accepting all of the things that make me Brandi, the good and the bad, has not only made me a better person for myself, but it’s made me a more engaged and supportive wife, mother, and friend overall. I never realized how much my insecurities affected the folks around me until I looked back at old family pictures that I chose to opt out of, or I listen to friend reminisce about experiences that I didn’t participate in. All of those were just wasted opportunities to create memories and special moments. No more, though. I’m not wasting opportunities anymore.
Back in May, I met the women of Vanity Fair at the Mom 2.0 Summit. They shared with me about their initiative to give away 50,000 brand new bras to Dress For Success in 2015 and asked me to record a video message of encouragement to the women who were recipients of the program. I started to cry as I thought about all of the women who would be bravely going on interviews, and taking chances in order to improve their lives. I know firsthand how hard that is, and how difficult it can be to believe in our own strength and abilities in the middle of a difficult season. That’s why women, we need to be there to support and uplift each other.
Vanity Fair, with the #WomenWhoDo campaign is doing just that. They’re reminding women of the things that really matter in life and encouraging us to work on our foundation and what’s below the surface. It makes sense, too. I mean, Vanity Fair bras are known for their amazing structure and ability to support, but they’re beautiful, too. I had a chance to try out several of the styles (I’m wearing the ah-mazing Vanity Fair Beauty Back strapless in these photos), and was blown away by how pulled together I looked, and how comfortable they are. What’s underneath matters in more ways than one, y’all!
Being a #WomenWhoDo is about being your genuine self. It’s about working on yourself from the inside out, and learning how to focus your energies on making the world and the people around you better. I’m so grateful that I have come into myself and am able to be a woman who does. It’s certainly makes for a much happier and fulfilled life. So long insecurity! I’ve got a life to live!
Many thanks to Vanity Fair for the wonderful bras!